I'm Jess, AKA your Betrayed Bestie!


I help young women (20s-30s) heal from sexual betrayal trauma and their subsequent breakup/ divorce through relatability, mindset shifts, and subconscious reprogramming.

Believe me when I say: I have been where you are. In 2021, I found out about my ex- husband’s infidelity, and my entire life changed overnight. Over the next 2+ years, I went on an intense healing journey. I dove into trauma healing, personal development, and became almost unrecognizable just one year in. Though my ex did not choose recovery and my marriage did not make it, I did! I focused on grieving my relationship, building my new life, and documenting everything along the way so that I could help other girls who were going through the same thing (and in less time than it took me!) I have taken the most helpful healing modalities and pieced everything together into a signature framework that will provide a total transformation (it works if you work it!)

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What is betrayal trauma?


Betrayal trauma was coined in the 1990s by Jennifer Freyd. It occurs when “the people or institutions on which a person depends on for survival significantly violate that person’s trust or well-being.” It is a boundary violation of egregious proportions.

We depend on our significant other for comfort, safety, love, friendship. More often than not, we believe that our “person” would never betray us by cheating, using pornography, hiding a sexual addiction, or otherwise breaking relational agreements. This causes a reality collapse and brings up a host of intrusive thoughts, questioning, and more. You may wonder:

  • “What was our relationship?”

  • “How could he lie to my face?”

  • “Who is he, really?”

  • “What is wrong with me? Why didn’t I see any signs?”

  • “Would he have ever told me if I didn’t find out myself?”

  • “If I can’t trust him, who can I trust?”

Being betrayed and denied our reality is abuse. It is emotional, psychological, and sexual abuse. Your partner has purposefully engaged in behaviors that they knew you would not approve of, and that if you'd known all of the information about your relationship, it likely would have looked a lot different (or ceased to exist). ​

Your experience is so valid, and you are not alone. If you've been affected by betrayal trauma, please continue reading below to find out how you can receive support.

NEW: Betrayed Bestie Academy


This is a completely self-paced online course for young women who have experienced partner sexual betrayal trauma, have left their relationship, and are ready to heal and live their best lives. This course walks you through the exact process that I engaged in to heal from betrayal/ divorce and drastically improve my life. You will learn how to navigate the initial effects of betrayal trauma, develop a deeper understanding of what you’ve been through, feel better about your decision to leave (or about your relationship ending in general), grieve your relationship, decide what you want your life to look like moving forward, identify and clear any limiting beliefs, and take inspired action.

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Self-Paced Course


Payment Plans Available

  • Completely online, self- paced course
  • Lifetime access to course materials (including future versions/ updates)
  • Best for those who are short on time, want to move through the material at their own pace, motivated self-starters who do not need/ want accountability, and those who do not want personalized coaching

Course and 1-on-1 Support


Payment Plans Available

  • Self-paced online course
  • Lifetime access to course materials (including future versions/ updates)
  • Three 1-on-1 coaching sessions (1 per month)
  • Telegram (messaging app) access in-between sessions
  • Best for those who want to go through the course material on their own, with added coaching sessions to get personalized guidance, ask questions, etc.

Completely 1-on-1


Payment Plans Available

  • Limited spots available, application required
  • Twelve 1-on-1 sessions (1 session per week for 12 weeks)
  • Lifetime access to course materials (including future versions/ updates)
  • Course material delivered 1-on-1
  • Personalized support and coaching
  • Telegram (messaging app) access in-between sessions
  • Best for those who want an intimate container to learn the course material and have plenty of time for questions, coaching, etc.

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Betrayed Bestie Academy

A self-paced course (with 1-on-1 support options) for girls who have experienced betrayal trauma and a breakup/ divorce and are ready to heal and create their dream life!

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1-on-1 Coaching

An intimate container for girls who may not resonate with the Betrayed Bestie Academy, but like my messaging overall and would like to work closely with me. A collaborative, fun, and transformational experiece!

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